The past few days have really been hard for me. My oldest daughter came to me and told me something that my middle daughter had seen happen.

She had been over spending a few days with my son and his family. My son and his live in girlfriend
have three children. one that is 4 months old and then his girl friend has two other children she had prior to meeting my son.

While my middle daughter was over spending time with them she observed my son grabbing the middle child who is three and tossing him into bed. I guess the little three year old didn't want to sleep or needed something and got back up again and my son grabbed him by the face and then took him and threw him back into his bed.

This bothered my daughters terribly. When my oldest daughter came to me and told me what happened. I could hardly believe it then I heard my son in law tell me that he had seen him throw him into the bathtub too. At this point I myself
began to believe that it was true.

So when I was calm I called the police and asked them to do a well baby visit. The young lady has had child protective services called on her many times. Since I had met her she seemed to be working hard to change. So I gave her the benefit of the doubt.

I had not seen them since Christmas because of being ill myself. So I had no idea what was going on with them as a family unit.

It broke my heart to think my son would harm a child or mistreat a step son. He alone should know first hand how it feels to be abused and how love does not mean you have to be blood related. After all he is adopted.

I called my son later to tell him that I was the person who called the police to do a well baby check. I was concerned about the little boy and as much as I love my son. I could never stand by and allow him to be abusing a little child.

His girlfriend went off in the back ground making threats and yelling. My son was upset too but he knows that I know him better than anyone and that I know when he drinks he can become violent. So I asked him if he had done such a thing and he said NO but as always I could tell there was more to the story.

My heart goes out to any parent that has to make a call like this on someone in their own family unit.
Unfortunately it is the family who is close enough to see the abuse and danger. So after you have talked to them over and over again and offered to help in any way you can. Then abuse still goes on.
For the child's sake you must make that phone call.

Talking with police is not easy either. They treat you like you are dirt calling them on your own family. In this case it was for the sake of my step grandson. He is the sweetest little boy on earth. I adore him. He can not communicate well and they have not sought out help to get him communicating better.

Sometimes I wonder if part of why he does not speak is from the things he has seen and fear has kept him quiet. It was for this very reason that he can not speak up for himself that I made that call.

My daughter would have called but I told her it was better for me to make the call so her brother would not blame her and hate her. My son can hate me all he wants as long as the child is safe. I will always love my son and his family. I just hope FIA and DHS keeps the kids safe.

Anyone else out there that has had to make this kind of call for the child's sake? All comments are welcome.