The Declaration of Independance states that "All men are created equal." Our nation was founded by some very intelligent people.

For as long as I can remember when ever someone found out or was told that our children were adopted.
We would hear them say "Oh, you're adopted." As if it were some god awful disease or anything less than equal to or as normal as "Other children."

Every time we had a situation in school. The conversation with the principal or teacher would start with "I know he or she is adopted..." That would just go right through me and make my little devilish horns stand straight up on my head. I wanted to know what that meant exactly. I never asked for them to ever give my child a free ride or another chance.

However it just seemed natural that they did it with out asking. Which made me even more concerned. It allowed my son or daughter to get away with more and to break the rules of the school with little or no
consideration given for what they had done.

My daughter April used this to her advantage all through school. Had they made her responsible for her own actions like we had done at home. She would not have been out of control so much at school.

Last year the principal sent April home if he could not be at school for the whole day. He was allowing her to leave class any time she wanted and just go down and sit in the office. No wonder her education suffered.

By the time I found all this out half the year had passed and she had lost all her credits. I would send her to school but she would go into the office and sleep or sit with her head down all day. No one made her go to class. No home work got completed.
And....if you are not in class...you ARE Absent.
So she flunked out by absentee.

Now that April is turning 17 on September 8th. Her life is beginning to change drastically. The judge she will go in front of could careless if she is adopted. He will see her record and he will have no mercy on her. The juvenile judge told her this face to face. Now that she has sat in detention for pre adults and found out it is not like the cake walk she has done before... She is beginning to wake up a little.

I know that we tend to feel sorry for our children.
We only handicap them if we keep that attitude up.
Our kids must be exactly that. Not looked upon as any different from our own biological kids. All children are created equal. They can be as colorful as a box of crayola crayons and as bright as neon markers. As sharp as the end of a needle and as dumb as the day is long....

But they are all equal and should be treated as much in the same manor as possible. By teachers, doctors, parents and friends.

There is no room for pity in adoption. No call for it. Adoption just means you are a chosen child.
Welcomed into a new and loving family. Equal to each person. Be proud and stand tall.