A couple who have faced the desires to have children and have watched every door close before them, leaving them to yearn for the very thing they can not have, have faced some of the deepest hurts and feelings of loss that anyone can deal with on this earth.

When they get past all of that pain and open their hearts and lives up to consider adoption, there are still many phases of fear that they will face with it, such as:

1.) You have limited history on the child you are considering to take into your home.
2.) What health issues and or emotional and mental issues will the child develop.
3.) Will there be a hard time adjusting to a new family life together.
4.) What will it be like to raise someone else's child.
5.) Will the child resent you for adopting them.
6.) Will the parents of the child ever try and cause problems during the life of the child you have adopted.
7.) Will this child want to look for their biological parents at some point.
8.) What if they find them and leave you behind after all the love and time you have spent raising them.

The fear and questions can go on forever. That is why it takes faith to walk you through life when you adopt a child of any age.

There are hundreds of important subjects to think on like when will you tell your child they are adopted? How will they respond to this news? If you do not tell the child will they feel a deep loneliness anyway?

So far I know many that have done as we have in our family and told our children that we love them and they needed someone to adopt them and raise them. So God put us in the right place at the right time and we became a family.

Adoptive moms are special people. They may be biological moms already and choose to adopt. They could be childless and decide to adopt. What is so special is the adopted child is born in our hearts. We make a choice to love them and invite them into our families. Just as the adoptive father does also.

When you think about that, you can understand that the deep love for children is what drives a couple to reach out to kids who need a little help in finding a good family. They step up to the plate and they never give up.

To me that makes an adoptive family all the more special. Because the parents choose to love the child and the child can choose to love them back. Isn't that what family is all about any way?

To all of the kids out there that take their adoptive parents feelings into consideration when hard decisions have to be made. To all those Adoptive moms and dads out there praying that God will guide their child in the right pathway when meeting their birth parents. My love goes out to you.

For all the birth moms and dads who would love to meet the adoptive parents and thank them for the wonderful job they have done to raise something they love and gave up with tender hearts. My love and prayers are there with you also.

When it all comes down to it we are just one big extended family. Especially if it is built on a foundation of love and friendship.