Comments on: Attempts to Prevent Sexually Inappropriate Behaviors in the Family http://older-child.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/attempts-to-prevent-sexually-inappropria Addressing all the issues faced by those who adopt older children and support by others who have. Mon, 01 Mar 2010 23:44:14 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Cindy Bodie http://older-child.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/attempts-to-prevent-sexually-inappropria/comment-page-1#comment-699 Cindy Bodie Sat, 05 May 2007 23:37:05 +0000 http://older-child.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/05/04/attempts-to-prevent-sexually-inappropria#comment-699 good point Theresa good point Theresa

]]> By: Theresa http://older-child.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/attempts-to-prevent-sexually-inappropria/comment-page-1#comment-698 Theresa Sat, 05 May 2007 21:14:48 +0000 http://older-child.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/05/04/attempts-to-prevent-sexually-inappropria#comment-698 Recently considering a teen boy coming to our family, my husband vetoed (we have 10 teen daughers at home). I go off "gut instinct" most of the times and really felt that there would not be a problem between these girls acting out with this boy - or this boy seeking acting out with the girls.<br /> <br /> My husband pointed out one other consideration. While our girls might not approach the boy sexually, they do have other issues. This would include them not having a problem false allegating against the boy if they became angry at us or him. This could ruin that poor boy's future in a worst case scenario. <br /> <br /> It was a risk we just couldn't take for this poor boy.<br /> <br /> The issues always have to be in forefront of considerations in families who are adopting another child into an existing family. Recently considering a teen boy coming to our family, my husband vetoed (we have 10 teen daughers at home). I go off “gut instinct” most of the times and really felt that there would not be a problem between these girls acting out with this boy – or this boy seeking acting out with the girls.

My husband pointed out one other consideration. While our girls might not approach the boy sexually, they do have other issues. This would include them not having a problem false allegating against the boy if they became angry at us or him. This could ruin that poor boy’s future in a worst case scenario.

It was a risk we just couldn’t take for this poor boy.

The issues always have to be in forefront of considerations in families who are adopting another child into an existing family.

]]> By: Cindy Bodie http://older-child.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/attempts-to-prevent-sexually-inappropria/comment-page-1#comment-701 Cindy Bodie Sat, 05 May 2007 10:55:26 +0000 http://older-child.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/05/04/attempts-to-prevent-sexually-inappropria#comment-701 You are extremely right and totally on target. I do worry often. You are extremely right and totally on target. I do worry often.

]]> By: Kathleenb http://older-child.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/attempts-to-prevent-sexually-inappropria/comment-page-1#comment-700 Kathleenb Fri, 04 May 2007 22:56:31 +0000 http://older-child.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/05/04/attempts-to-prevent-sexually-inappropria#comment-700 unfortunately, just because there's been no *recorded* history of sexual acting out doesn't mean it hasn't been happening or that it won't happen. Sometimes kids are more likely to observe the boundaries present between non-birth-family members and those boundaries may blur w/in their own birth relations... And also unfortunately, it is possible to have stuff like that going on in your home undetected for a long time... and opposite sex relationships are not the only ones you need to worry about. unfortunately, just because there’s been no *recorded* history of sexual acting out doesn’t mean it hasn’t been happening or that it won’t happen. Sometimes kids are more likely to observe the boundaries present between non-birth-family members and those boundaries may blur w/in their own birth relations… And also unfortunately, it is possible to have stuff like that going on in your home undetected for a long time… and opposite sex relationships are not the only ones you need to worry about.

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