It is a known fact that a man and a woman meet and, they fall in love and, then go on to marry and, then they bond and have children.

There was no blood factor involved in the creation of this family, until they together made children.
What was present and what made them a couple way before they ever decided to become parents...had nothing to do with Blood. It had everything to do with Love.

So where along the way life got all mixed up and people began this "Your my blood" issue. Which I strongly believe in family supporting one another and making the bond stronger day by day. What I don't believe in is the ritual that in order to be considered family you have to be of the biological blood line.

Our family is made up of two loving parents and a biological sibling group. At times we have seen them join up and alienate my husband and I. We have heard the "You are not my blood" sentence way to often.

Many times we just simply let it go and went on being a family and ignored the kids when they would say anything like that to us.

However, this past weekend we had been under great stress and my two older daughters got into a conversation about blood. Discussing who belonged by blood. I held my words until I felt like I wanted to scream and cry. Then I simply told them like it was.

I am not the person who God chose to give birth to them. But I am the person who God chose to raise them. I am more of a mother to them than anyone else has been on this earth and their father is exactly that...."Their Father", He has worked hard and put clothes and food on their table and shoes on their feet and gone without when they needed something for school and we had to stretch our budget to get it for them.

I let them know loud and clear that We are done with the "My Blood" talk. If that conversation ever happens again around us we will simply get up and leave and allow blood to be blood.

To top it off we attended the reading of Grandma Slaydens Will. Of course there I was told I had to not attend (even though my husband and I have been married for 23 years as of July 20th). Which is a good thing. Because had I been included I would have let Garys mother know how displeased I was about our children being left out and not even mentioned.

Once again the issue of "Family Blood" and it just sickened me. I didn't know how to feel. I do know that my dad did not leave Gary out on my inheritance. He shared with me on our blessing and the love that my parents left behind for their daughter.

I just know that from this point on my friends who have treated my kids more as family than this so called "Blood Line." They will be the ones who I will bless along with my children with anything I own when my time comes to an end here on earth.

I sincerely believe that "Blood does not mean family." I am a firm believer in Family Bonding. But those bonds are made through Love and devotion.
Nurturing the feelings and soul of one another. Not by blood line or anything else.

I would rather love my family for who they are. Than to count blood lines. I am sure that other parents have had similar issues with their families and their children. Share your experience. We are here to up lift and support one another. So please feel free to leave a comment.