Let's get this new year started off on the right track. One of the most neglected areas of life in a family is mommy and daddy free time.

There are so many excuses why you can't afford a date night. From cash flow to a good baby sitter.
So it is time to find reliable people who can watch the kids. It is nice to have a few of these people on stand by for date nights. So if one is busy. Another will be able to step in and fill the gap.

For larger adoptive families this is a must. Mom and Dad need personal time to keep the close bond between them. To be the best parent you can be, you have to be a good self centered person too. You can not allow your life to become just about family.

Love is something that comes natural in the beginning between a man and woman. As time flows past them. It is something that must be kept alive and sometimes rekindled after a few years of child rearing.

It is easy to neglect the needs of one another. This is why a good date night should be part of your monthly routine.

If at all possible a weekend away every few months would be a great thing for busy parents. Most of the time mom is busy feeding, washing or looking after the kids while dad is working, paying bills and occupying the other kids. That little or no time is spent on mending their own personal life as lovers and friends.

Yes, that means that even sex can become boring and in need of some excitement. A good back rub or bubble bath may be just what the doctor ordered. A few extra hours to sleep in. The time to eat and have a good discussion without interruptions. Or something as simple as cuddling up and watching a T.V. show.

A date night should always be budgeted into the family finances. Along with a baby sitter's expense.

To many families experience estranged marital problems after a few years of parenting kids. You must decide if your relationship is worth the effort. To be a happy family. Mom and Dad need to be happy too.

I am sure everyone out there has some good comments on how to find private time for lovers. Even if you have a large busy family. All comments are welcomed.