My oldest daughter read aloud to me a make-up expert’s advice, “Find a role model your own age,” which stuck with me. At 52, I can hardly look to the Paris Hilton for how to act or dress.
But, to me, role models are vitally important. I want to be my children’s role models, especially to my daughters. I want them to be educated and self- supporting, or at least have the ability to support themselves should something unexpectedly happen.
I want my sons to choose wives who are emotionally strong, intelligent and capable. Only one son is now married and I adore my daughter-in-law; she truly makes him happy and that is all I ever wanted for him.
I have my own role models and they are all patterned from strong thinkers. I soak up the writings of Norman Vincent Peale, Dale Carnegie, Napoleon Hill, Oswald Chambers, Denis Waitley, Tony Robbins, Les Brown, Zig Ziglar, Dr. Laura Schlessinger and Mamie McCullough…just to name a few. I need to be built up emotionally and intellectually as it then enables me to stand strong, and to raise my enormous family…tough to do under any circumstances but when one factors in the many, many issues stemming from traumatized children, it is way more than a 24-7 job, I need to be at 110% all the time and I have to strength train my mind, nourish my physical body, and keep my own emotions in check.
I don’t read these authors at night as I’d then be too stoked to sleep, I like to read them in the morning, and, of course for me, The Bible. Who doesn’t constantly need strength and encouragement?
I do not look to Hollywood for role models. I’ll never look like them, nor do I have any desire to tend to my physical appearance all the times. It’s usually all I can do to get my face washed, teeth brushed and vitamins taken before someone is clamoring for me. Looks fade anyway, no matter what you do.
What matters to me is my family; that my children all succeed at whatever they attempt to do. Right now so many of them need academic help, and we are blessed by having a wonderful school system that offers tutoring and other resources. At home they help each other which also reinforces what they are good at, what they’ve learned each day.
Years ago I read Mamie Mccullough’s book about a bumblebee being aerodynamically unable to fly..but it does. It may seem impossible for a family of 39 children to function normally…but we do. Big Mama here only sees their potential, not their flaws. I stop them from finding excuses, from wanting to be victims, and instead we are concentrating and building on their many successes.
My sixteen year old son recently completed a wrestling season. He did an awesome job, the first one in our family to choose this sport and he’s now influenced a younger, rather aggressive son to join him in this endeavor next year. Gito is now being Javy’s role model and that means a great deal, not just to Javy but to Javy’s four younger birth siblings in our family. Gito is the baby of his original sibling group, an older brother of his, in the Navy, has been his role model; now Gito gets to be one.
I like that in a guy.