Comments on: Family Safety With Disturbed Children http://older-child.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/family-safety-with-disturbed-children Addressing all the issues faced by those who adopt older children and support by others who have. Mon, 01 Mar 2010 23:44:14 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Dixiefern http://older-child.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/family-safety-with-disturbed-children/comment-page-1#comment-867 Dixiefern Tue, 19 Jun 2007 15:57:55 +0000 http://older-child.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/06/17/family-safety-with-disturbed-children#comment-867 How do the ragers respond to the damage they've done, especially when it is their own property or living space? Do they have to help fix it? Do they show any regret at having made their world less inhabitable?<br /> <br /> I admire you for your perseverance and hope that I can rise to the task if ...when... it is necessary. I have my first meeting with our county agency on Monday, so the ball's rolling along. How do the ragers respond to the damage they’ve done, especially when it is their own property or living space? Do they have to help fix it? Do they show any regret at having made their world less inhabitable?

I admire you for your perseverance and hope that I can rise to the task if …when… it is necessary. I have my first meeting with our county agency on Monday, so the ball’s rolling along.

]]> By: Cindy Bodie http://older-child.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/family-safety-with-disturbed-children/comment-page-1#comment-866 Cindy Bodie Mon, 18 Jun 2007 11:36:57 +0000 http://older-child.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/06/17/family-safety-with-disturbed-children#comment-866 I don't know how to repair sheetrock, but I have a wonderful son-in-law who comes by regularly to do so. <br /> This one son cooled off considerably in time for another one to lose it yesterday.<br /> This truly is life in the adoption of older children as both John and Julie indicated here. We all seem to go through this. I don’t know how to repair sheetrock, but I have a wonderful son-in-law who comes by regularly to do so.
This one son cooled off considerably in time for another one to lose it yesterday.
This truly is life in the adoption of older children as both John and Julie indicated here. We all seem to go through this.

]]> By: AdoptionBlogs Editor http://older-child.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/family-safety-with-disturbed-children/comment-page-1#comment-865 AdoptionBlogs Editor Mon, 18 Jun 2007 02:45:08 +0000 http://older-child.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/06/17/family-safety-with-disturbed-children#comment-865 Oh, Cindy, my heart goes out to you. Oh, Cindy, my heart goes out to you.

]]> By: John http://older-child.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/family-safety-with-disturbed-children/comment-page-1#comment-864 John Sun, 17 Jun 2007 23:02:36 +0000 http://older-child.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/06/17/family-safety-with-disturbed-children#comment-864 What a rotten box to be in. Not wanting to quit is what lets us make progess, but the downside is risk. When does the damage to the other kids and to you become great enough to pull the plug?<br /> <br /> My 22 year old was the one that was so risky. I was really unimpresed with my decision making about that. I did nothing and worried about it. The other boys were very worried that he would do somthing bad to me, and like you, this is single parent adoption. I did move him out at 20, but it should have come several years earlier.<br /> <br /> My thoughts are with you. There are no great options.<br /> <br /> On a lighter note, how about a blog on dry wall repair? Lots of us could use some tips on how to do the really big holes. John<br /> <br /> PS It looks like he got a stud. How is whatever part of him that made the hole?<br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> What a rotten box to be in. Not wanting to quit is what lets us make progess, but the downside is risk. When does the damage to the other kids and to you become great enough to pull the plug?

My 22 year old was the one that was so risky. I was really unimpresed with my decision making about that. I did nothing and worried about it. The other boys were very worried that he would do somthing bad to me, and like you, this is single parent adoption. I did move him out at 20, but it should have come several years earlier.

My thoughts are with you. There are no great options.

On a lighter note, how about a blog on dry wall repair? Lots of us could use some tips on how to do the really big holes. John

PS It looks like he got a stud. How is whatever part of him that made the hole?

]]> By: Julie http://older-child.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/family-safety-with-disturbed-children/comment-page-1#comment-863 Julie Sun, 17 Jun 2007 21:44:41 +0000 http://older-child.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/06/17/family-safety-with-disturbed-children#comment-863 Cindy,<br /> <br /> For an instant I thought you'd snuck into my house and taken a picture of our hallway wall! <br /> <br /> The questions you raise are valid ones...ones that can only be answered by each family, each parent on their own - when is enough, enough? When does our safety come first?<br /> <br /> I think you know instinctively what the answer is. But I'm very sorry that it's reaching that point.<br /> <br /> And I very much agree with your statement "I don’t think he has the ability to choose his ‘bad’ behavior. I don’t think he is wired correctly." I can say the same thing about my daughter as well.<br /> <br /> HUGS,<br /> <br /> Julie Cindy,

For an instant I thought you’d snuck into my house and taken a picture of our hallway wall!

The questions you raise are valid ones…ones that can only be answered by each family, each parent on their own – when is enough, enough? When does our safety come first?

I think you know instinctively what the answer is. But I’m very sorry that it’s reaching that point.

And I very much agree with your statement “I don’t think he has the ability to choose his ‘bad’ behavior. I don’t think he is wired correctly.” I can say the same thing about my daughter as well.

HUGS,

Julie

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