One of the most powerful feelings we learn to harbor in life is Guilt. Something goes wrong and it is obvious someone is to blame for it. In many cases of divorce or child abandonment, it is the child who develops the deep feelings of guilt.

Without any substance for blame the child learns to feel the guilt. They often will not even admit the guilt feelings because the emotions form without them even knowing what they are. Many children think
"It was my fault" that mom or dad did not love me or that they fought and or divorced each other.

Realizing that your child is vulnerable to feeling Guilt. Is the first step in helping your child to dispose of those feelings and not carry them into the next phase of life. Parents can do this by simply communicating with their children in a calm and reassuring voice. The parent should also take responsibility for what is occurring and not allow the child to feel at fault for anything that has happened.

Guilt and Blame are negative emotions. They have no place in raising a child, except in a proper situation when the child should take responsibility for his or her own actions. Then be clear on how easy it is to cause harm and to ask to be forgiven and to release the blame.

Children who carry guilt usually grow up and become
negative individuals who take on fault for anything that happens around them. This can suppress life and limit their ability to have positive relationships.

Simple words like "it is not your fault" or "bad things can happen to good people" can help them to think and understand that not everything that happens has blame or guilt associated with it's occurrence.

Whatever you can do to help a child understand and not carry guilt or blame for any negative situation
is a positive parenting goal.

Like any medication or hazardous cleaning chemical.
Guilt and Blame should carry the warning: Keep Out of Reach For Children.