Comments on: Hurt People Hurt People

By: forevermommy

forevermommy — Sat, 28 Jun 2008 05:13:32 +0000

As adoptive mom to two kiddos who were 5 and 13 when theyw ere adopted, I was always looking for a book, or something, that would help my kids through some of the rough times (me too, for that matter). That was before Blogs and such…but now I have found a great book for the kids…Called “I Am Adopted” through Tate publishing. Our family has been through a lot of the tough feelings and problems you have talked about, and we have come through with flying colors. I hope this book can help someone.

By: condo-mom

condo-mom — Wed, 05 Mar 2008 10:45:22 +0000

I passed along the story you refer to (about “Manny”) to friends fostering 2 sibs. After almost a year in the home, the kids call their foster parents “Mr. D” and Mrs. G”. Culturally many adults here go by Aunty and Uncle when relating to children, so Mr. and Mrs. is a bit odd. But my friends are patient and see small steps in building trust with the kids. What struck me in the above story was the length of time (age 8 to 14) that transpired before the writer says he “realized adoption was a possibility.” Maybe there was some unavoidable reason for that kind of delay, but I sure hope permanency comes a LOT sooner for most kids !! If it’s going to take them years to recover from (or learn to live with) their early hurts and truly trust their family, leaving them in limbo can’t be helping. — Rachel

By: Julia Fuller

Julia Fuller — Tue, 04 Mar 2008 03:14:53 +0000

Thanks for the pep talk Cindy. We all need it sometimes, especially when we’re still in the trenches.