Just the word "Teenager" scares most parents to death and do we wonder why. You would think after living through quote:
"You've lived through 2 AM feedings, toddler temper tantrums, and the but-I-don't-want-to-go-to-school-today blues. So why is the word "teenager" causing you so much anxiety?"

When you consider that the teen years are a period of intense growth, not only physically but morally and intellectually, it's understandable that it's a time of confusion and upheaval for many families.

Despite some adults' negative perceptions about teens, they are often energetic, thoughtful, and idealistic, with a deep interest in what's fair and right. So, although it can be a period of conflict between parent and child, the teen years are also a time to help children grow into the distinct individuals they will become."

Well that sounds reasonable. I think we can agree with most of what is said on this web site. You may wish to read up on some of the other things this article says about Parents and how to survive the the Teen years.

http://www.kidshealth.org/parent/growth/growing/adolescence.html

Over all this article is a good source to help parents remember the changes that are going on in the body of their pre teen child. It asks good questions about how much space you will allow for your child to grow and find their own identity. It asks if you feel you are a controlling parent? Or if you give your child way to much space.

There are good guidelines to focus on and help you as a parent to stay focused on the goal. Which is for your child to grow up and become a good moral, asset to our community.

It is worth checking out. What do you think? Considering we are dealing with Adoption issues also and maybe the need to find or locate the biological parents also. Our Teenager may be a little more on edge than most teens.

It is helpful to allow your child to know your thoughts on finding birth parents. If you offer your support and help. It often takes away the fear of hurting the adopted parents. And allows the child to focus on their own "Need to know basis."

What you do not want to do is restrict your teen and make them miss out on all the special moments that are theirs to cherish during the teen years.

The road maybe a little rough on the soul. But it is well worth it when you see what a wonderful young person your child has become. Live the Dream.