Comments on: Laughing and Raising Children http://older-child.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/laughing-and-raising-children Addressing all the issues faced by those who adopt older children and support by others who have. Wed, 18 Nov 2009 02:35:36 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: M http://older-child.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/laughing-and-raising-children/comment-page-1#comment-797 M Thu, 31 May 2007 05:39:56 +0000 http://older-child.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/05/28/laughing-and-raising-children#comment-797 My mom always said some times you just have to laugh to keep from crying. If I chose to be depressed, mope around and dwell on the unplesant I'd be in serious trouble! <br /> <br /> And I think CNN should be banned! Nobody needs a 24/7 feed of what is wrong in the world. My mom always said some times you just have to laugh to keep from crying. If I chose to be depressed, mope around and dwell on the unplesant I’d be in serious trouble!

And I think CNN should be banned! Nobody needs a 24/7 feed of what is wrong in the world.

]]> By: Theresa http://older-child.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/laughing-and-raising-children/comment-page-1#comment-796 Theresa Tue, 29 May 2007 00:12:34 +0000 http://older-child.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/05/28/laughing-and-raising-children#comment-796 Yes!!<br /> <br /> I am certain that a positive attitude and humor is the #1 reason my family works.<br /> <br /> Get this - I was once taken to court for a positive attitude after our children's psych doc - and then state mental health director - turned me in. We went to court with chance of losing 5 children! It was terrifying. I later got full court transcripts. Here was his complaint: "Mrs. S., given the many needs of her children, is too happy."<br /> <br /> WHAT?!?! OK, I get that maybe it was perceived that I didn't understand the full impact of living with the illness level of our home since I seemed happy at doc visits. HOWEVER, could they not understand that it was the happiness, joy and positive attitude that ALLOWED us to cope in a home with the "illness level" that ours had then (it was BAD)?!? (BTW, court went in our favor.)<br /> <br /> I didn't know whether to laugh or cry. What I did was to take that page, highlight it and frame it. When I see that on the wall, it makes me smile every time. Sometimes I even laugh at it. I'm happy to explain it when guests ask.<br /> <br /> When people ask me "How do you do it?", I answer: a positive attitude, a sense of humor and the God-given strength and peace.<br /> <br /> I know it makes a difference for me and the "feel of our home". I could go on for hours on how I feel it's a key for healing of attachment issues as well.... Yes!!

I am certain that a positive attitude and humor is the #1 reason my family works.

Get this – I was once taken to court for a positive attitude after our children’s psych doc – and then state mental health director – turned me in. We went to court with chance of losing 5 children! It was terrifying. I later got full court transcripts. Here was his complaint: “Mrs. S., given the many needs of her children, is too happy.”

WHAT?!?! OK, I get that maybe it was perceived that I didn’t understand the full impact of living with the illness level of our home since I seemed happy at doc visits. HOWEVER, could they not understand that it was the happiness, joy and positive attitude that ALLOWED us to cope in a home with the “illness level” that ours had then (it was BAD)?!? (BTW, court went in our favor.)

I didn’t know whether to laugh or cry. What I did was to take that page, highlight it and frame it. When I see that on the wall, it makes me smile every time. Sometimes I even laugh at it. I’m happy to explain it when guests ask.

When people ask me “How do you do it?”, I answer: a positive attitude, a sense of humor and the God-given strength and peace.

I know it makes a difference for me and the “feel of our home”. I could go on for hours on how I feel it’s a key for healing of attachment issues as well….

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