Multiple Adoption VS Single Adoption

There are so many roads to adoption, so many countries to adopt from. The choices are endless and the decisions you make will
lead you on a personal path as adoptive parents.

My husband and I closed our Foster License after we adopted 4 children from a very large sibling group.
I believe there are a total of 17 children in this
maternal mothering basket. None of the children were allowed to stay with the birth mom, due to her use of drugs and alcohol.

We chose to focus on the kids we adopted. With their issues of ODD, ADD, ADHD, BiPolar Disorder and general Depression. We felt that our work was cut out for us if we could just raise these four children to adulthood. We also kept in touch with one other male sibling who grew up in the state boys facility.

I have friends who have fostered many children and raised them as extended family. I know of parents where go on to adopt many other children, like my co blogger Cindy.

The stories they share are amazing and now that most of my children are grown and off having their own families. We are considering fostering again.

My hat goes off to those who endlessly work with adopted children and raise them to adulthood. It is no easy job. One bad egg can make it difficult to keep peace in the family unit.

I am happy that we did not try and bring other children in to our home with the devastation my daughter April brought up on us. My dedication to her and determination to not give up on her has been a hard road to walk on.

Children like April have had so many people give up on them and toss them back in to the pit of state custody, so many times. They never feel complete or loved. So how can they go on to be productive adults?

A Therapist told me to give up on April and my son Joe when they were 8 (April) and 13 (Joe). She said that kids like mine bid their time until they do something and end up locked up for life.

I really think she meant what she was saying to me.
But in my southern, stubborn, brain freeze. I could not phantom giving up on any living thing. More or less children.

Isn’t our God a God of second chances? Does he ever give up totally on us? Sure life would have been much easier had I given up and let the state place April somewhere else. But that would have made me feel like a failure.

When I signed on to adopt my kids. They became MY KIDS. Until I take my last breath I will feel the same way.

Much to my amazement Joe is now 21 and has not been in jail for his petty stuff in over a year. He has a new son and I am once again amazed at what a good father he has become.

He is now taking classes and going to counseling. He is actually participating in his counseling. So I am great full for just these huge steps he has taken on his own. To others they would be mild effort. To Joe it is like a life achievement.

April is now living with her older sister and helping her daily with her two toddlers while she is pregnant with her third son. So far so good.
April has managed to stay out of trouble and do something productive for her and for someone else.

Our home life is so peaceful and having just one 8 year old daughter at home is strange for me. I am used to a house full of noise and music. Angela does her own thing and loves to do arts and crafts.
She paces her time and talents to good use. She is so good at occupying herself that I feel like I am not even needed at times.

Mind you I am great full for the break and the rest.
But the silence and free time is driving me batty.
So now I can see how people go on to adopt again and end up with dozens of kids.

What ever fits your life style. One child. A sibling group. Or several groups of kids. It is all something that has been done with adoption.

This is why all of the different Blogging Sections are needed information. Someone out there somewhere
is looking to find another person who has been where they are. So single adoption, multiple adoption. Considering Adoption. Seeking a child from another country. You can find what you are looking for on AdoptionBLOGS.com.

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