Comments on: Parenting http://older-child.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/parenting Addressing all the issues faced by those who adopt older children and support by others who have. Wed, 18 Nov 2009 02:35:36 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: lmg1567 http://older-child.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/parenting/comment-page-1#comment-1312 lmg1567 Thu, 04 Oct 2007 19:45:02 +0000 http://older-child.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/10/04/parenting#comment-1312 Once again - it's the parents who are incapable or unwilling to say NO to their little prince or princess that ruin it for the rest of us. I am sick to death of providing so much more than I ever had - opportunities for sports, dance, extra-curricular activities, clothes, STUFF to my kids only to have them act like they never get anything and are so disadvantaged!! A foster/adoptive mom in our area just passed away a few days ago (she was in her early thirties and left behind eight or nine kids) and I just want to scream at my kids that they are SO LUCKY!!! Those poor kids left behind would surely trade any video game, any toy, ANYTHING to have their mom back and here is one of mine, p'oed that she couldn't go to youth group last night after not turning in assignments and maintaining an F in English, all her responsibility, not mine but the attitude I get after I tell her no is, "well, you'll just do anything to keep me from going to youth group" HUH??, yeah I forced you to not do your work - something has to change here. It's the entitlement mentality that is going to ruin these kids!!! Once again – it’s the parents who are incapable or unwilling to say NO to their little prince or princess that ruin it for the rest of us. I am sick to death of providing so much more than I ever had – opportunities for sports, dance, extra-curricular activities, clothes, STUFF to my kids only to have them act like they never get anything and are so disadvantaged!! A foster/adoptive mom in our area just passed away a few days ago (she was in her early thirties and left behind eight or nine kids) and I just want to scream at my kids that they are SO LUCKY!!! Those poor kids left behind would surely trade any video game, any toy, ANYTHING to have their mom back and here is one of mine, p’oed that she couldn’t go to youth group last night after not turning in assignments and maintaining an F in English, all her responsibility, not mine but the attitude I get after I tell her no is, “well, you’ll just do anything to keep me from going to youth group” HUH??, yeah I forced you to not do your work – something has to change here. It’s the entitlement mentality that is going to ruin these kids!!!

]]> By: Kelly http://older-child.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/parenting/comment-page-1#comment-1311 Kelly Thu, 04 Oct 2007 16:51:55 +0000 http://older-child.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/10/04/parenting#comment-1311 Cindy, I am both laughing and agreeing. I love this blog. I am going to remember the father's comment as I know I will be using it in the very near future. Cindy, I am both laughing and agreeing. I love this blog. I am going to remember the father’s comment as I know I will be using it in the very near future.

]]> By: Chromesthesia http://older-child.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/parenting/comment-page-1#comment-1310 Chromesthesia Thu, 04 Oct 2007 16:08:00 +0000 http://older-child.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/10/04/parenting#comment-1310 Hoochie mama land.<br /> That's so funny.<br /> Middle ground is definetly needed. There has to be a place between letting kids do as they please and Pearl and EZZO who just scare me with their strict Gestapo give children no rights, break their will with the rod.<br /> <br /> I want to find a way to make resources even stronger for adoptive parents and foster parents... Hoochie mama land.
That’s so funny.
Middle ground is definetly needed. There has to be a place between letting kids do as they please and Pearl and EZZO who just scare me with their strict Gestapo give children no rights, break their will with the rod.

I want to find a way to make resources even stronger for adoptive parents and foster parents…

]]> By: Sunbonnet Sue http://older-child.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/parenting/comment-page-1#comment-1309 Sunbonnet Sue Thu, 04 Oct 2007 15:58:00 +0000 http://older-child.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/10/04/parenting#comment-1309 Yep. our kids aren't the enemy, for sure. Their issues we can and will flex for. but the community will pull you right under and hold you down! The folks who do manage to understand and learn to support are more than a lifeline. There really isn't a word to describe how much they mean to our families. Whether they are therapists, teachers, medical professionals, whatever. Horray for those of them who are there. Including you, Cindy! Yep. our kids aren’t the enemy, for sure. Their issues we can and will flex for. but the community will pull you right under and hold you down! The folks who do manage to understand and learn to support are more than a lifeline. There really isn’t a word to describe how much they mean to our families. Whether they are therapists, teachers, medical professionals, whatever. Horray for those of them who are there. Including you, Cindy!

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