Unfortunately we live in a world where children are exposed to so much abuse, at such a tender age. The stories of what happens to our kids never grow old. It is no wonder that the abuse is so difficult to live through and to survive alone.

No child who has been abused likes to talk in details of what happened to them. They just want to put it in the past and hope they can forget it.

But as we all know, different events in life will trigger the memories. A healthy survivor of child sexual abuse will move through each occurrence and become stronger each time.

Some of the events known to trigger memories are:

1). First Boy/Girl Friend
2). Parental divorce or change of custodial parent
3). First sexual experience as a teen or adult.
4). The birth of their first baby.
5). Marriage and or Divorce
6). Death, Birth, Marriage of a Sibling.

The list can go on. Each person is a little different and the trigger points can be numerous. Things like a song or movie that was on when the abuse happened. Or rain or a smell.

Conquering all this is enough but one more important thing is needed. If the child has admitted to sexual abuse, they should be given a through exam by a doctor. They should also allow blood work and pap tests for an STD panel.

This alone could save their life. It can also bring peace of mind to the survivor. In more than one case I have been involved in, the check up and std panel helped prevent cancer in young women.

It is up to the parent and the child to do everything possible to get life on the road back to normal.

I know it is so easier said than done. But it is so vital and important to the safety of our children. So please don't over look the small things that can ease the mind for years to come.