Comments on: Struggling With Behavior Issues http://older-child.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/struggling-with-behavior-issues Addressing all the issues faced by those who adopt older children and support by others who have. Wed, 18 Nov 2009 02:35:36 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: allformychildren http://older-child.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/struggling-with-behavior-issues/comment-page-1#comment-1756 allformychildren Fri, 08 May 2009 16:59:07 +0000 http://older-child.www.adoptionblogs.com/2009/05/05/struggling-with-behavior-issues#comment-1756 I understand your plight. I am an adult adoptee. Sounds like me when i was younger. But i never hit anyone. but in today's society with everything on tv ....it is understandable that kids do what they when they are stressed. <br /> <br /> on putting away the dishes that were dirty. No criticism to you, Maybe just say Thank you...and not mention that they were still dirty. Some times just positive re-enforcement is a starting point and constructive criticism just needs to wait a while. The hitting should absolutely not be tolerated under any circumstances. She will learn. Maybe explain to her other avenues for her anger. That is a hard one. <br /> <br /> On the WII help...older siblings always do that, even non-adopted ones. I know...I have three.<br /> <br /> I hope this is helpful and I again stress...i do not mean to be critical of your methods...Thank you for adopting an older child. :-)<br /> <br /> It takes a world of patience... I know it was not easy for my MOM now that i am older and a parent myself.<br /> <br /> One day at a time. Possitive encouragement. I understand your plight. I am an adult adoptee. Sounds like me when i was younger. But i never hit anyone. but in today’s society with everything on tv ….it is understandable that kids do what they when they are stressed.

on putting away the dishes that were dirty. No criticism to you, Maybe just say Thank you…and not mention that they were still dirty. Some times just positive re-enforcement is a starting point and constructive criticism just needs to wait a while. The hitting should absolutely not be tolerated under any circumstances. She will learn. Maybe explain to her other avenues for her anger. That is a hard one.

On the WII help…older siblings always do that, even non-adopted ones. I know…I have three.

I hope this is helpful and I again stress…i do not mean to be critical of your methods…Thank you for adopting an older child. :-)

It takes a world of patience… I know it was not easy for my MOM now that i am older and a parent myself.

One day at a time. Possitive encouragement.

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