http://older-child.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/teaching-how-to-be-appropriate Addressing all the issues faced by those who adopt older children and support by others who have. Mon, 01 Mar 2010 23:44:14 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 http://older-child.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/teaching-how-to-be-appropriate/comment-page-1#comment-1610 lsm47 Tue, 14 Jul 2009 06:08:35 +0000 http://older-child.www.adoptionblogs.com/2009/07/11/teaching-how-to-be-appropriate#comment-1610 Mandy - I am brand new to this sight and brand new to blogging. I just decided to explore the option for some support. Two of our children who are adopted from Vietnam have been with us for 18 months now. They are currently 8 and 10. I can definitely empathize with you when you talk about how it's normal for society to accept toddler behavior but when that toddler behavior comes in a bigger body it's hard for everyone. We were at the park last week and my 8 year old son Daniel was climbing a tree purposefully above this family having a picnic intentionally causing bark and leaves to fall on their blanket. I was not able to get him down and I did appologize to the family. I don't have any great answers to this dilemma but I do try a lot to reinforce positive behaviors and when I get personally frustrated I try and remember from where they have come from. I mean that both from where they have come before entering our family and how very very far they have come since being here. I don't like the demands for wanting to have things bought for them all of the time, that is something I struggle with. I like your idea of the chart for reinforcing positive behaviors. Lori Mandy – I am brand new to this sight and brand new to blogging. I just decided to explore the option for some support. Two of our children who are adopted from Vietnam have been with us for 18 months now. They are currently 8 and 10. I can definitely empathize with you when you talk about how it’s normal for society to accept toddler behavior but when that toddler behavior comes in a bigger body it’s hard for everyone. We were at the park last week and my 8 year old son Daniel was climbing a tree purposefully above this family having a picnic intentionally causing bark and leaves to fall on their blanket. I was not able to get him down and I did appologize to the family. I don’t have any great answers to this dilemma but I do try a lot to reinforce positive behaviors and when I get personally frustrated I try and remember from where they have come from. I mean that both from where they have come before entering our family and how very very far they have come since being here. I don’t like the demands for wanting to have things bought for them all of the time, that is something I struggle with. I like your idea of the chart for reinforcing positive behaviors. Lori

]]> http://older-child.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/teaching-how-to-be-appropriate/comment-page-1#comment-1609 lsm47 Tue, 14 Jul 2009 06:07:56 +0000 http://older-child.www.adoptionblogs.com/2009/07/11/teaching-how-to-be-appropriate#comment-1609 Mandy - I am brand new to this sight and brand new to blogging. I just decided to explore the option for some support. Two of our children who are adopted from Vietnam have been with us for 18 months now. They are currently 8 and 10. I can definitely empathize with you when you talk about how it's normal for society to accept toddler behavior but when that toddler behavior comes in a bigger body it's hard for everyone. We were at the park last week and my 8 year old son Daniel was climbing a tree purposefully above this family having a picnic intentionally causing bark and leaves to fall on their blanket. I was not able to get him down and I did appologize to the family. I don't have any great answers to this dilemma but I do try a lot to reinforce positive behaviors and when I get personally frustrated I try and remember from where they have come from. I mean that both from where they have come before entering our family and how very very far they have come since being here. I don't like the demands for wanting to have things bought for them all of the time, that is something I struggle with. I like your idea of the chart for reinforcing positive behaviors. Lori Mandy – I am brand new to this sight and brand new to blogging. I just decided to explore the option for some support. Two of our children who are adopted from Vietnam have been with us for 18 months now. They are currently 8 and 10. I can definitely empathize with you when you talk about how it’s normal for society to accept toddler behavior but when that toddler behavior comes in a bigger body it’s hard for everyone. We were at the park last week and my 8 year old son Daniel was climbing a tree purposefully above this family having a picnic intentionally causing bark and leaves to fall on their blanket. I was not able to get him down and I did appologize to the family. I don’t have any great answers to this dilemma but I do try a lot to reinforce positive behaviors and when I get personally frustrated I try and remember from where they have come from. I mean that both from where they have come before entering our family and how very very far they have come since being here. I don’t like the demands for wanting to have things bought for them all of the time, that is something I struggle with. I like your idea of the chart for reinforcing positive behaviors. Lori

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