WOW, I can not begin to tell you how much this topic specks to me. I am 33 year old who was never Adopted. Manly because I was not put up on the Adoption block till i was 8 year; even though i was in care from the age of 5. It toke over 5 years for the woman who gave birth to me to sign me away, and I cant say for shore but I believe it shoot my chances down even lower then they were already.

having said all that I was exposed to some of the sad cases you can imagine, seeing young girls have no self worth because NO ONE wanted us was worse then any prison sentence could ever be.

We were left to sit and rot, I can not give you numbers but it is insane how many older children need a loving families!

Now this is definitely the hardiest thing for me to say, but "Older Child Adoption" a hugh job. So please note not all but from what I saw growing up, we where all very angry, distractive, and most of all needy as hell!

"Older Child Adoption." is not at all the way you wrote about from what I know. To sale it as good choices for "busy world" is not telling the hole story.

The frame work of a family is something ever one needs, if you miss out on your life will never fully recover. I'm still in Therapy, and its been a life long journey to work on the pain I endured and will continue to due to my lac of family(mother really). That said I am definitely going to Adopt an older child.

I can't imagine taking a baby over a preteen on teenager. Why? There are SO many chidden in need, and I understand just how much love they want and need. I have also spent most of life studying Child Development and world of issues that arise.

With all of that said, I believe it is far more important to know what your getting in to then to do it just because it seems like the right thing to do.

I would never say all "Older Child Adoption" is going to be harder then not, but I will say it is worth understanding that you encounter prolonged behavior that you may find off putting. MEANING: angry, aggressive, violent, distractive behavior that will pass I swear!
But first that child needs to try and push you as hard as it can to see if you'll really stick it out for the long hall. Once you get through that stage you nerve believe how much love is really in that child.

You see I firmly believe deep prolonged pain, carves out a much larger capacity to love!

OH ya are there any mother's out there that would like to Adopt a 33 year old, because in my own way I'm still waiting.

Hi still waiting,
I appreciated your post. Very honest of you. Good luck with your wait. If it helps, I think a lot of us are still waiting for something, someone. P

Hi Still Waiting,

Consider yourself adopted. I'd love to have you at my holiday table.

I know all the difficulties that come with older child adoption. Two of my children put me through living hell. They have done everything including run up court bills of over 34,000 dollars that I have to pay. They have been distructive and angry all of their life but they done know who to vent it at so they vent at mom and dad.

My home is just now getting a few of the badly needed repairs done that they have inflicted upone it.
Broken windows, doors punched in walls. You name it we have lived through it. Including suicide attempts and anger outbursts that have led to run aways and self infliction of pain.

I thank you for your honest post.
If I had it all to do over I would still adopt all of my children because the love is beyond measure in my heart for them.

Watching them accomplish little things in life brings me great joy.

Please feel free to eamil me at SnoFLKDrms@aol.com any time you may wish to correspond.

Hugs,
Sharlene