If anyone had the chance to catch the Dr. Phil show high lighting the "Adoption Scams on the Internet" at the end of February. Then you know that there are people on earth that simply do not have any self respect or compassion for other people.

Three women who are barren and desired to adopt a baby. Placed ads on the inter net seeking to adopt or help support any person who had an unplanned pregnancy, wishing to relinquish their child to loving adoptive parents.

All three of these ladies and I would expect a couple thousand more. Received answers from one person claiming to be pregnant and desired to give their baby up for them to adopt at birth. This person sucked the women in, often requesting money for ultra sounds and various other things. Only to tell them later that the baby was "still born" or that she miscarried. She even went as far as to promise one grieving "want to be mom" that she would sent her the baby's ashes and a copy of the death certificate.

Of course Dr. Phil tried to help these women who were raked over the coals emotionally confront their would be birth mom. She had represented herself to each woman with a different story and a different name. Which I would think should be a criminal act to defraud these people out of money.
But every out come was the same.

This woman took advantage of helpless ladies who suffer from being child barren. She built up their hopes and dreams of having a new born baby. Enticed them to decorate nurseries and buy clothes and toys for this "make believe Baby." Just to maliciously top off their pending joy with the cruelest act of mankind...and tell that this baby they have dreamed of and waited for died.

The compound emotional trauma of such a scam happens to thousands of excited and emotionally raw pre adopt parents every day.

Which brings me to one very positive out look on adopting older children. Yet at the same time saddens me that mankind can be so cruel and many go unpunished.

When you adopt an older child. Most of the time that child has already been through termination of parental rights TPR. So you know that the child needs a home and family. You also know that the birth parents are not going to appear and be able to take your child or change their minds on some technicality.

There is far less fear for the adoptive parent when they have chosen to adopt a child that is older than a new born.

Even with the splendor of the benefits in this area that rally around adopting an older child. Some couples just never give up the inner pain of not being able to birth a child and nurture it from the first moment of life. In many ways I think adopting a new born nurtures the soul of barren parents as much as it fills their life with hope and dreams.

For those who have dealt first hand with adoption scams and have now been filled with fear and experience trust issues. The comforting thought that new born adoptions happen every day and it can happen for you too if you keep your faith and never give up.

As for the scam artists like the lady on Dr. Phil's show. I hope someone presses charges on everyone of them and they find prison a barren new life.