One of the hardest things to do is to let go of your kids and trust them enough to learn on their own. For years we are programmed to care for our children.
To do what is best for them. Then all of a sudden we have to learn to step back and let them grow.

What a powerful lesson it is for us as parents.
It is also one of the hardest things we have ever done. It is difficult to sit there and keep our mouth shut when we are sure our child is making a very big mistake.

What we have to learn is that these are mistakes they have to learn on their own. Then they have to learn to get themselves out of the mess they have made. It is all a part of growing up.

Let's face it .......It's not so easy for us over bearing moms.

Especially adoptive moms. We spend our life sheltering our child and keeping them from harm.
Especially after what their younger life imposed upon them. We are determined not to let them ever hurt again.

Well unfortunately more than we would like to admit.
They sometimes will make the same mistakes that the birth parents made. They will drink. They will smoke joints. They will party. They will act out sexually. And...Theres not one thing we can do to stop them.

We have to have enough faith that the time we spent with them has instilled a deep soul searching imprint. One that they will return to. When they realize that this is not the life they want for themselves and their children.

I know it was a soul finding search for me as a parent. I fought hard not to let go of my son.
I have watched him make mistakes that will be relived upon him and two precious children for the rest of their lives. All I can do is pray he will wake up soon.

Anyone else out there feeling my words?