Over the past two years our life has been interesting to say the least. All of our children are growing older. Two are out on their own and have started their own families now.

We as adoptive parents still try to help our children out as often as we can. When we see them working hard to make ends meet and we have a little extra income we always make sure our grand kids get whatever they need.

Actually it is more mom than dad with that issue.
Grandpa would rather drive a brand new truck and have cash in the bank. Grandma on the other hand settles for just what I need and I try to help others out.

As the kids get older they seem to be drawing their own opinions about their siblings and their significant others. As well as how they each raise their children and make difficult decisions.

We as parents try to stay neutral when at all possible. Right now our biggest concern is our newest grandson Jayden and his two parents. We have them staying two weeks with us in order to help make sure Jayden's start off in life is a good one.

He has two adorable siblings. Kaylee and Gavin. Which I in no time have taken too. They call me Grandma Shar and that blesses my heart.

Jayden's mom and dad seem to really be trying. For once in his life my son is stepping up to the mark and is trying hard to change. As we all know it is very difficult for anyone to make over whelming changes over night.

Discontinuing the use of drugs and alcohol will be gigantic hurdles to over come. I do not expect him to succeed over night. If he says he does then We both will know he is lying.

The same thing with the birth mom. She has tried during her pregnancy but has failed a few times. Now that she is no longer pregnant she has the same evils facing her each day. If she loves her children she will try hard to make the right decisions.

Because we have taken the stand to try and help them.
Not to keep anger and condemnations in our hearts. Our other children are upset. Many things have been said out loud to one another that they can not take back. We have tried to keep the peace. To let the kids know that no matter what else happens family comes first.

I guess I would love to hear from other adopted kids on how to handle the stress between the siblings. Or other adopted parents who have gone through the same issues.

It is hard when your adult children decide not to like each other. It is even more sad when they act like the love is gone. What do you think?